ByOleg Romanenko 2018-12-28 1455
I had a chance to talk with a mother, who was faced with the problem that her son began to vaping. She talks about how she applied the recommendations of psychologists to overcome addiction in practice, and what came of it:
I remember that in conversations of my child with friends phrases "the 18650 battery is better than USB", "the liquid 0.8 is the best". I thought it was about computer gears. "Orange Juice" considered the character of a game or something like that. A beautiful literary "soar" or "clouds" and practical "fill the tank" considered just speech turns.
How to fix this problem, there are four steps as follow:
Vape - electronic cigarette
Vaper - the one who smokes it
Vaping - the process of smoking
Slurry, liquid, juice - liquid that is filled in a vape
The amount of nicotine in the liquid is expressed in mg: 0 mg, 0.6 mg, 0.8 mg, and ect. The battery or micro USB cable are two different ways to charge an electronic cigarette.
Not finding the answer on the Internet, she went to a psychologist working with the children. He immediately suggested she to think about what kind of trouble, the problem "lights up" her child. After all that her son smokes already means that the reason exists.
After that the psychologist asked how she cope with the problems herself. Seize, drink, hush up? As her main problem is that she like eating sweets, such as candy and cakes.
The specialist recommended she to start a conversation with her child not about his problem, but about her problem. During the talking, she frankly speak out her problem and admit that eating sweets is a bad habbit. Then she ask for her child's advice to help she get rid of the bad habbit.
After a couple of days, without any connection with the first conversation, she can tell her story about smoking. About the first time. Speak honestly and without moralizing.
In this, she also followed the advice of a specialist. She was recommended to try to stop eating sweets, to understand how difficult it is and to assess her capabilities. And only then begin to negotiate to overcome addiction. In the process no need to impose, hurry or press, but give the child the right to make a mistake, talk about possible difficulties and not expect quick results from him. Just observe and fulfill your part of the contract.
A week later they had a third conversation. It was like this: "I think it's as difficult for you to stop vaping as for me to stop eat sweets. You do it for your reasons, I do it for mine. But in the end we harm our health. Let's try to live without it? "
Her son agreed. In the process she did not ask how his affairs were going. Within the framework of the advice "to give the right to make a mistake" and "tell about possible difficulties", they managed to screw in the following:
"Imagine, three weeks did not eat sweet, but today I fell through, could not resist. It was a birthday and I did not want to offend people by refuse. Now I zeroed the result, and I have to start again! You are cool if you do not fall, but cooler if you fell and was able to rise. "
I learned about the result in six months. Her son was ill and a doctor came to the house. And the doctor asked: "Do you smoke? Now everyone is vaping. " Son: "No. I did before, but I quit already." The doctor, hiding a smile: "And how did you quit? It's hard". And he, carelessly, replies: "it depends!" She almost shed a tear. Doing all of this was more difficult than just talking about the dangers of smoking, but more effective.
Summarizing this story, I advise moms and dads to hold the first two conversations in advance, while the child is still not smoking and is not even going to. Or not caught yet.And I would advise more often to think about whether parents are a positive example for their children or not.
On the other side, some activities can calm an agitated mind in withdrawal, especially like yoga, meditation and sports. A teenager can renew acquaintance with a passionate interest or hobby that might have fallen away. I hope this post will help teenagers stop smoking, built a healthy body and love the lives.
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